Building a stable and healthy relationship with your child is essential for their emotional development and overall well-being. I strongly believe that when preventing mental health issues in children, if you only did one thing, then this is the thing that would underpin all the others in ensuring your child has excellent foundations on which to build skills.

This is not to say that it is easy… My own children have had their SEMH ups and downs related to unavoidable life circumstances. Also, as any parent will tell you, you are human! We can’t make the best choice 100% of the time. Sometimes we get it wrong and we have to say sorry (which is also an important thing to role model).

Here are some tips to help you foster a stable relationship with your child:

1. Show Unconditional Love and Acceptance: Let your child know that you love them unconditionally, regardless of their actions or behaviours. Accept them for who they are and provide support and encouragement.

2. Communicate Openly and Respectfully: Encourage open communication with your child. Listen to their thoughts, feelings, and concerns without judgment. Be attentive and responsive to their needs.

3. Spend Quality Time Together: Dedicate time to spend with your child doing activities they enjoy. Whether it’s playing games, reading books, or going for walks, quality time together strengthens your bond and creates lasting memories.

4. Set Clear Boundaries and Expectations: Establish clear rules and boundaries for behaviour, and consistently enforce them with fairness and compassion. Children feel more secure when they understand the expectations and consequences of their actions.

5. Be a Positive Role Model: Children often mimic the behaviour of their parents. Be mindful of your words and actions, and strive to set a positive example for your child to follow.

6. Encourage Independence and Autonomy: Allow your child to make age-appropriate decisions and learn from their mistakes. Encourage independence while providing guidance and support along the way.

7. Express Empathy and Understanding: Validate your child’s emotions and let them know that it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated. Offer comfort and support during challenging times, and help them develop healthy coping mechanisms.

8. Celebrate Achievements and Milestones: Acknowledge your child’s accomplishments, no matter how small, and celebrate their successes. Praise their efforts and encourage them to pursue their interests and passions.

9. Respect Their Individuality: Recognise and respect your child’s unique personality, interests, and talents. Avoid comparing them to others and allow them to explore their own identity.

10. Be Patient and Flexible: Building a strong relationship takes time and effort. Be patient with your child and yourself as you navigate the ups and downs of parenthood. Stay flexible and willing to adapt your approach as your child grows and changes.

By prioritising love, communication, respect, and understanding, you can nurture a stable and fulfilling relationship with your child that will last a lifetime.

Thanks for reading.

Lynn